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Men have been seduced by a lie

Men have been seduced by a lie.

All men have three basic yearnings: purpose, adventure and romance. John Elldredge puts it beautifully in his book Wild at Heart when he writes that every masculine soul needs a battle to fight, an adventure to live and a beauty to rescue. As men we come alive when our souls find expression in these three areas. Unfortunately, in today’s sanitised and digitalised world, battles and adventure are not easy to come by.

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The Father’s Embrace

The two greatest gifts a child can receive are a mother’s nurture and a father’s embrace. The father is a boy’s first hero and a girl’s first love and the father who sees this and responds with his embrace gives his child a gift of incalculable value. So much more than a hug the father’s embrace is the million things a man does in the love of his child.  Read More

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The Soul of Sex

“Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is looking for God.” – G. K. Chesterton


It’s astounding how frequently men will risk complete compromise of their values, their marriage and their reputation to pursue a short-term enticement.

We joke that men have two heads and only enough blood to run one of them at a time but the truth is it goes a lot deeper than just physical desire. There is something captivating and bewitching about sex that can blind and blunt the conscience and common sense of men who are not whole. Like the sirens of Greek mythology who lured passing sailors with their enchanting music and voices to shipwreck on the rocky coast of their island. Read More

Power of a good man: adult man's hand fist pumping a baby's hand

The power of a good man

I am utterly convinced that if we could somehow place a good man in every household crime would come to a grinding halt, our police force would become all but redundant and social services would never have to leave their offices.

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How to build your child's self esteem: little girl gives thumbs up

How to build your child’s self esteem

Burning at the core of every child’s heart are some questions that beg to be answered. And the man who needs to answer is their father.

Who am I dad? What am I made of? Am I enough dad? Am I strong enough, smart enough, attractive enough? These questions are asked of every dad a thousand times in a thousand different ways. The boy who runs out to greet his dad with a boisterous tackle when he comes home from work is crying out, “look how strong I am dad! Am I strong enough?” The girl who dresses up in mom’s oversize dress and parades in front of dad is crying out, “look how beautiful I am dad! Am I beautiful enough?” Miss enough of these moments and you miss your child’s heart forever. Catch these moments and answer the question well and you will gift your child of an unshakeable self esteem. Read More

Beauty and the beasts

Beauty and the Beasts

The feminine soul is one of the greatest treasures of the universe.

Its beauty has no equal. Yet like all treasures of great value it has enemies. Two beasts in particular attack the heart of a woman’s beauty and femininity; the first is the lie that popular media perpetrates about her beauty and the second is the wound to her feminine soul that the men in her life inflict on her, at times unknowingly, at times deliberately.
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What is a real man: Father playing with his son

What is a real man?

Where is the image of a real man to be found? Is it in the round-house kick of Chuck Norris or in the decaf latte of the tame metrosexual?

Is masculinity epitomised by the pot-bellied, middle aged, suburban man in front of the sports channel sipping beer and yelling advice to a team of men he has never met, or by the suave wall-street broker in a pin-striped suit? Does the tough inner city gang member embody masculinity or the outdoor man hiking through the wilderness? The image of true masculinity is as varied as the number of people you ask.
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A call to all good men: man standing on rock in front of ocean

A call to all good men

Men have been given great responsibility for the lives and families and communities in their care, and they have been given great strength to fulfill these responsibilities.

 
There are many good men using their strength to provide, nurture, protect and care for their families but unfortunately there are also a great many men who are getting it wrong and causing untold damage in the process. Read More