All men have three basic yearnings: purpose, adventure and romance. John Elldredge puts it beautifully in his book Wild at Heart when he writes that every masculine soul needs a battle to fight, an adventure to live and a beauty to rescue. As men we come alive when our souls find expression in these three areas. Unfortunately, in today’s sanitised and digitalised world, battles and adventure are not easy to come by.
Hands down my greatest challenge as a divorced dad was remaining a deeply engaged father in my children’s lives with a co parent who was no longer my partner, whose feelings towards me were less than hospitable and whose ideas about parenting came from a different manual than mine.
The two greatest gifts a child can receive are a mother’s nurture and a father’s embrace. The father is a boy’s first hero and a girl’s first love and the father who sees this and responds with his embrace gives his child a gift of incalculable value. So much more than a hug the father’s embrace is the million things a man does in the love of his child. Read More
Telling my children that their mom and I were getting divorced was probably the hardest conversation I have ever had.
My son Luke was 11 at the time and my daughter Blythe 8. My heart broke as I looked into their sad, shocked eyes. It took everything I had to stop my tears from flowing. Their lives were being turned upside down by the two people they trusted and relied on most in the world.
It’s barely a week into the new year and already so many of the heartfelt resolutions that sounded so good on 1st January are starting to feel a little onerous. And if we’re really honest with ourselves we know many of them won’t last. Why does this happen every year? We promise ourselves “a new year, a new me!” But it seldom happens. Life happens instead and we carry the same habits and struggles into another year.
Our future lies in the hands of our children and in our hands lies the future of our children. It sounds like a riddle but it’s really quite simple; how well we raise the world’s children will determine the quality of our future on earth. The most important contribution any man or woman can make to world peace and prosperity is to parent the next generation well. Read More
Nothing is more important for the future of our planet than how well men and women raise their children.
Parents are given the unbelievable privilege of holding the vulnerable, malleable and utterly impressionable life of their child in their hands. In a parent’s hands lies literally the power of life and death for their children, for both body and soul. And in the hands of our children lies the future. Read More
A father is his son’s first hero and his daughter’s first romance – the most important man in their lives. Yet being a great father doesn’t just happen. It’s a conscious choice. In all the work I have done around fatherhood I have noticed a pattern – here are the five things all great fathers commit to.
“Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is looking for God.” – G. K. Chesterton
It’s astounding how frequently men will risk complete compromise of their values, their marriage and their reputation to pursue a short-term enticement.
We joke that men have two heads and only enough blood to run one of them at a time but the truth is it goes a lot deeper than just physical desire. There is something captivating and bewitching about sex that can blind and blunt the conscience and common sense of men who are not whole. Like the sirens of Greek mythology who lured passing sailors with their enchanting music and voices to shipwreck on the rocky coast of their island. Read More